The original plan for the film was it to span over the course of a year and see the disease evolve over that time through the seasons. This element slightly disappeared in the final edit, but what stayed was the relationship between Harold & Mary and seeing the decline over a time period. Phyllis is incredible in showing this as she has all the weight on her shoulders as the person who is losing her loved one. Dermot’s performance adds to this, and we wanted to emphasise the loving and caring relationship as much as possible, the fun between them, and the family. The banter between them as a family unit hopefully meant it created a sense of longevity and a proper family environment rather between each character.
We got so lucky with the house that we found, our original location fell through and a friend of mine offered up her parent’s family home for the shoot. It came with a dog, birds and the goldfish which were incorporated into the film. The design of the house and the feel meant we already had a solid foundation to work from. Our production designer, the incredible Francesca Jones elevated these subtle elements of design to make sure the place felt like Harold & Mary’s house, including the mugs they drink out of, the photos on the wall, the little touches that helped create a sense of longevity by these particular two people. The knitting that Mary is doing, elements that show a passage of time. A lot of these are understated but it creates such homely environment that was a joy to shoot in.
Again, I got so lucky with Dermot and Phyllis on so many levels, they’re wonderfully kind, caring and thoughtful actors who really want to give their all to a project. With Dermot he would always check where he was in his journey and see if we were pushing too far or not enough, and we’d play with that a lot. He is one of the best actors I’ve ever worked with. When I sent him the script he immediately understood and got it and was so excited to be a part of it. I couldn’t have found a better Harold. Phyllis is an ambassador for Dementia UK so this film meant a lot to her too, and it gave them such a great jumping off point because they cared so much for the characters and the journey and the personal story it told. They’d both worked together before in their careers and knew each other well, so the repour and chemistry was already there, this made it incredibly easy to mould and build that relationship. When you’re working with two of the best that Britain has to offer, it’s about sitting back and enjoying watching them work, and usually holding back tears from how power the performances were on set.